You need to develop a practice of regular exercise

“If you don’t do something, you will have a cardiac event of some sort in the next 10 years.”  Those were the words I heard come from my physician’s mouth 12 years ago. I had one young son and another on the way.

I’d been overweight and unhealthy for 20 years.  I drank too much. I ate whatever I wanted. I was stressed out.  Every time I went to the doctor, they said I had to do something, but this time it was different. 

10 Years….

In 10 years, my wife might be calling the ambulance after she finds me unconscious in the shower or slumped over the computer.  They would take me to the hospital and crack my chest open like a crab because my arteries are clogged and my heart is begging for mercy. 

Something had to change, or I was going to be enjoying a much shorter life than I wanted to live.

I started with the Couch to 5k program from Runner’s Magazine.  The first day had me alternating between a light jog for 60 seconds and three minutes of rest for 20 minutes.  I still remember huffing and puffing through those 60 seconds—IT WAS BRUTAL

Over the weeks, the jogging increased, and the rest decreased according to the program.  Before I knew it, I was running for five minutes at a time and resting for two, and at four months, I was able to jog for an entire 30 minutes without stopping! 

Feeling much better now and enjoying the improvement in my life, I started SF Boot-camp in Golden Gate Park.  This was an outdoor program that consisted of body-weight, elastic bands, running and jumping exercises. It was a group class that met four times per week.  I lost about 60 pounds, got faster and started to look like a healthy person. 

I had finally made exercising regularly a habit!  It was after about a year and a half that I started to get bored with the programming.  I was enjoying the new me and wanted to push further. 

Around this time, someone told me about CrossFit. I found a gym and a community of great folks who also have a regular physical practice.  After 10 years of doing CrossFit, I’ve packed on about 40 pounds of lean body mass and I can do things I didn’t know would ever be possible for me. 

I’m now 47, in the best shape of my life, and the heart is working quite well, thank you very much!  I’ve made scores of friends over the past 12 years and am looking forward to another 40+ years of exercising! 

While it was tough to get started, making it a priority made it a reality. Today, I can’t think of a single change that has benefited my life more than my physical practice of regular exercise. 

The Obstacle is The Way (For The Most Part)

Obstacles and roadblocks in life are usually not enjoyable, but they help you grow and mature. Whether you’re going through physical strain of a 10 minute workout, spiritual instability of a 4 hour psychedelic journey, or emotional discomfort over 6 months of litigation, the result is more often than not a better, stronger, and more resilient person.


It’s commonly known that exercising the body will help you become a physically stronger person. However it’s less common to think about the mind as a muscle — something that needs obstacles to grow. And it’s even less common to think about the spirit in that way, too.


One of my mantras in life is to constantly grow so that I can remain healthy and at peace. Life tends to be easier and more enjoyable when I am resilient, and my most rewarding experiences usually come from hard work set forth to overcome obstacles.


For those reasons, I constantly train and challenge my mind, body, and spirit through conscious decisions to choose discomfort.


When you choose discomfort over and over again, you get more comfortable with being not comfortable – physically, mentally, and emotionally. You build thicker skin, a tougher personality, and gain a better perspective on the world.


A few examples on how I do this:

  • I train my body and mind with exercises that involve both physical and cognitive function. Those usually include strength, balance and accuracy.
  • I also train my body and mind with cold showers, saunas and cold plunges.
  • I train my spirit by being committed to my marriage, my business, and raising my child, and through shamanic journeys that involve plant medicine.


Please keep in my mind that I don’t recommend putting yourself in danger, but to consciously choose discomfort with clear intentions that help you grow.


Note: I have borrowed The Obstacle is The Way as a mantra from Ryan Holiday, author of The Obstacle is The Way. In this book, Ryan Holiday shows how some of the most successful people in history — from John D. Rockefeller to Amelia Earhart to Ulysses S. Grant to Steve Jobs — turned new obstacles into opportunities to get better, stronger, and tougher.